Forgiveness & Encouragement

Hey! Sorry I’ve been so quiet lately. I have no excuse!

But, in other news, I want to tell you a little bit about forgiveness and encouragement.

I’ve noticed in my life that a lot of people are not very forgiving towards others or themselves. And that makes me really sad. Because forgiving is a good thing. Maybe someone did something wrong, and maybe you never got an apology. Or maybe you need to forgive yourself. Well, let me tell you something about forgiveness: When you forgive, it doesn’t excuse their actions, it doesn’t make what they did okay, but it puts you at peace. And that’s super important. So learn to accept the apology you never got, and forgive that person.

It is a process though, sometimes a long one. Try. I’m not saying you should forgive right now. All I’m asking is to please try and start the process. Forgive yourself, and forgive others. It will help you heal.

Now let’s talk about encouragement:

We are all born with the power to help others. Don’t waste it.

So be encouraging, be supportive. Everyone deserves a second chance. Especially to those who are trying to better themselves.


Regardless of what you or others may think, you are extraordinary. Every single one of you.


Starting a New Life in The New Year

A Letter To My Abuser,

You dug yourself deep into this hole that you can’t get out of. But you dragged me along too.

And I know you were abused as a child, and that you don’t want to end up like them. But I also know that sometimes the abused become abusive.

And I don’t want to be like you, but the cycle continues.

I’m turning into you—a bitter, angry person who gets mad at everything and nothing. And it’s not just any ordinary kind of mad, it’s the kind of mad that has me unable to control myself. The kind where words fly out of my mouth before I think, the kind that has me screaming as loud as I can into my pillow, crying as hard as I can because I’ve never ever ever gotten angry at anything—especially not like this—before I met you. And I am so scared. I’m scared of myself, for myself, and for the people around me. I don’t want to be abusive like you, and although people say I don’t have the heart for it, it’s turning in that direction.

You’ve silenced me with fear, like so many other victims of abuse have been.


Regardless, I hope you’ll learn to forgive, just as I hope I’ll learn to forgive. Because forgiving puts you at peace. And I hope you find that happiness you seek. I hope you find God before it’s too late. But most of all, I hope you finally understand what damage your actions and words have caused, and that you learn from them. And I hope one day you’ll change into the loving person you are deep down in your heart, that person I know you are capable of becoming.

And now I want you to know something: I’m out. I’m free, not only of you, but free of becoming more like you. I don’t need to think of you anymore, I don’t need to be afraid of you anymore. I’m starting a new life in the new year without you. So thank you. I know that what you have done to me will turn me into a stronger person one day.

Keep Your Head Held High

There’s a song by Morgan Taylor Reid called “Simply Human” and it’s a great song, although it does seem to drag on a little. But the point is, I wanted to share an important thought related to a favorite line from this song:

And there’s always room to grow,
So keep your head high.

We are simply human

I think this is such a great thing to remember. When I hear these words, I am reminded of how we’re all constantly growing and learning each day. I think of how we should learn from our mistakes. Forgive yourself, and forgive others too. After all, we’re only human.


These are just some thoughts from me for the day. What are your thoughts about this line from the song? Do you have a favorite song that inspires you? I’d love to hear!
x Stefani